Like the ladies, quite a number of Nigerian men remain
unmarried even though due and overdue for marriage. Several reasons could be
attributed to this situation. Below are five prominent ones.
·
Family
Responsibilities
As a result of the harsh economic realities
in this part of the world, parents as usually assisted by their older children
to fend and ensure upkeep of younger ones and the family.
In contemporary Nigeria, it is commonplace
to see unmarried men in their mid-thirties and sometimes older. Majority of
them either have school fees or parents to cater for. At this point, marriage
to them is secondary. It is relegated to the background until siblings are
partially or fully independent.
·
Financial Challenges
We have several men of marriage age who
still choose to remain single until further notice because of their poor financial
situation. Many are unemployed albeit being graduates.
No job, no business capital, no shelter.
They just squat with friends and relations, submitting job applications and
hoping for positive outcome. Someone in this kind of circumstance would hardly
think of a woman and be totally oblivious of marriage. At this point, survival
is paramount.
·
Career Focus
Just like many of us, I have also heard
and seen some professional men who seemed so much attached to their jobs that marriage
doesn’t seem to be on their mind.
Some love their job above all
things and have little or no time for any other issue. While others in this category believe they
should make a fortune in assets and in cash before considering getting married.
·
Immaturity/ indecision
Some of us would want to call this
immaturity or indecision in so men. They find it difficult making their own
decision.
Those in this category include those who depend
on parents, friends or relations to choose wives for them. The ladies are there;
they like these beauties but cannot muster the courage to approach them.
They
always want a go-between.
These guys, in most cases, would give about
anything to make an “arrangee” affair possible.
·
Casanova Syndrome
This is one very popular reason our matured
men still remain unmarried.
We have often read and heard people say that men
are loose by nature. At maturity, instead of considering getting married and
settling down, many of them still want to carry-on from one lady to another.
This attitude gradually becomes a norm thereby keeping thoughts of marriage in
the cooler, indefinitely.
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